Tinder’s buzzy new honesty trend gets taken to its logical, slightly overwhelming extreme by one enthusiastic early adopter
LONDON Local marketing coordinator Bethany Okonjo embraced this year’s much-discussed “clear-coding” dating trend with such thoroughness on a recent first date that her match reportedly left the pub with what she describes as “basically a full written summary of my five-year plan, values, and relationship goals, which in hindsight might have been slightly much.”
How This Trend Is Actually Meant To Work
Clear-coding, as popularized by recent dating app trend reports, simply encourages being upfront about what you’re looking for rather than playing games, a genuinely reasonable concept Okonjo says she “took and ran with, perhaps a little too far, a little too fast.”
What Her Actual Approach Looked Like In Practice
Beyond simply stating her intentions clearly, Okonjo arrived having prepared, unprompted, a fairly detailed verbal breakdown of her values, timeline expectations, and relationship priorities, delivered within the first twenty minutes of the date.
How Her Date Actually Reacted To This Level Of Clarity
Politely overwhelmed, by her own honest assessment, noting he “seemed genuinely appreciative of the honesty but also visibly recalibrating his expectations for what a first date normally involves.”
What Her Friends Think Of This Approach
Mixed reviews, several praising the underlying principle while gently suggesting she “maybe dial back the delivery format next time, perhaps save the full five-year plan for date three.”
Whether She’s Adjusting Her Approach Going Forward
Somewhat, she confirms, planning to maintain the honesty while “pacing myself a bit better, spreading the clarity out over more than just one slightly intense pub conversation.”
What This Says About Modern Dating Trends Generally
A reasonable concept, clearly, though Okonjo’s experience suggests even good dating advice benefits from moderate, gradual implementation rather than full immediate deployment on a single unsuspecting date. Further UK dating coverage continues at bohiney.com.
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